Resources

In Collaboration With
Centre for Compassionate Communication NZ

Transforming Our World
With Compassion & Empathy
One Heart At A Time ♥

FOLLOW US ON  WELLINGTON UKETOPIA & LEARN TO UKE NZ

We will collaborate with Wellington UkeTopia @learn.to.uke.nz to bring our message of Empathy and Compassion via our BEEP programme “Living Empathy”. Our intention is to promote Emotional Literacy and Intelligence in education, social services and general communities through “Living Empathy” accompanied with sing-alongs and peace songs on this wonderfully versatile and popular little instrument for children and adults. Read Our Blog: Living Empathy & Ukuleles For Peace NZ

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FOLLOW US ON SCOOP.IT! from BULLYING to EMPATHY

BULLYING IN SCHOOLS, WORKPLACES, HOMES & CYBERSPACE

BRENE BROWN – “Last year, after I had finished a talk on wholehearted families, a man approached me on the stage. He stuck out his hand and said, “I just want to say thank you.” I shook his hand and offered a kind smile as he looked down at the floor. I could tell that he was fighting back tears.” Continue Reading: Defense Against the Dark Arts   

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FOLLOW US ON SCOOP.IT! COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION

Founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Dr Marshall Rosenberg speaks about the process of Compassionate Communication.

The Basics of NonViolent Communication 1.1  (9 minutes)

The Basics of Nonviolent Communication – Full Version: (3 hours)

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RECOMMENDED READING
& RESOURCES

Nonviolent Communication:
A Language of Life

Create Your Life, Your Relationships and Your World. This book is a complete presentation
of the process of NVC. Enjoy powerful and satisfying relationships in all areas of your
life with this complete presentation.  240pp.

Foreword |Table of Contents |Chapter One
The NVC Process|“In Action” Stories
in Harmony with Your Values, by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook

A Practical Guide for Individual, Group
or Classroom Study, by Lucy Leu. 210pp.

A 12-week curriculum for use in conjunction
with Dr. Rosenberg’s book (above). Contains exercises and activities, leader’s guides, and hints for structuring and maintaining a practice group. This is the new edition of the workbook, and includes new material dealing with self-empathy. 
Table of Contents | Exercises for Chapter One

Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

What You Say Next Will Change Your World,
by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

Speak Peace is filled with inspiring stories, lessons and ideas drawn from over 40 years
of mediating conflicts and healing relationships in some of the most war torn, impoverished, and violent corners of the world. Speak Peace offers insight, practical skills, and powerful
tools that will profoundly change your relationships and the course of your life for
the better. 240pp.  Table of Contents  
Introduction|Chapter 1|Final Thoughts  

MORE RECOMMENDED READING & RESOURCES

 

Jackal Dictionary

WISE HEART JACKAL DICTIONARY

Part of cultivating compassion is learning to hear the feelings and needs people are expressing regardless of the words they use. This dictionary is meant to help you in that process. If you are having difficulty guessing the feelings and needs behind someone’s words, you can enter the words or phrase into the Jackal Dictionary search engine. A list of possible feelings and needs will pop up for you to consider. Have fun and let me know how it works for you.

Search Jackals:

• (Insert least favorite politician) is a nazi!
• He has a bad attitude about women.
• He/she is a bully.
• How are you going to fix this?
• How could you let them take advantage of you?
• How do you expect to make it alone?
• I can’t do this anymore, I can’t take the pressure.
• I can’t explain what’s going on for me.
• I didn’t tell you because I knew it would make you mad.
• I just have to carry on, it’s my responsibility.
• I love you so much, I’d die without you!
• I need to make everything right
• I should be able to understand everything.
• I shouldn’t risk failing. I probably can’t do it anyway.
• I shouldn’t be so emotional.
• I work hard; I deserve to come home to a clean house.
• I would like to hear you say I was right.
• I’m not going to be a very good department chair.
• If I were more disciplined, I would exercise regularly.
• If you don’t help me clean, we won’t be able to spend time together.
• Is that really your best effort?!?
• I’m incompetent, I can’t understand this.
• I’m stupid.
• Look what you did, What were you thinking?
• Men drive sports-cars because they’re overcompensating for shortcomings.
• Racists should be rounded up and shot!
• See how nice you are today? Why can’t you always be nice like this?
• She didn’t get enough hugs growing up.
• Taking care of my neck is just an excuse for not teaching this quarter.
• That’s not whole-hearted effort.
• That’s what you get for being unprepared.
• The trouble with you is that you can’t accept authority.
• We have to go to work and sit in a cubicle all day, that’s the way life is.
• We should be on time.
• Why are you being so argumentative?
• Why are you so mean?
• Why aren’t you listening to me?
• Why can’t I get my ducks in a row?
• Why can’t the house be more organized?
• Why can’t you listen to me?
• Why don’t you have a better job?
• Why won’t you talk to me?
• You always do this!
• You always interrupt me!
• You are lazy.
• You are seeking outside of yourself.
• You are so selfish
• You are such a bitch
• You aren’t good enough to succeed, sorry.
• You better have a good explanation for this!
• You can’t even sweep the floor right.
• You cannot be relied upon.
• You don’t know how to take care of yourself.
• You have to see deeply.
• You need to be less sensitive and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
• You need to clarify what you want in life.
• You never learned to listen because your whole family never listens
• You should be over this by now.
• You should just commit.
• You shouldn’t feel angry.
• You were a good daughter the first day or two, now you are only showing the worst sides of yourself, I can only be sad and disappointed in you.
• You were wrong not to tell me about the broken dishes.
• You will keep the house clean and the way I want it or I’m not living here.
• You withdraw when you are upset because you are trying to punish me.
• You’re a child molester.
• You’re afraid to take risks.
• You’re just jealous.
• You’re not being generous enough.
• You’re pissing me off!
• You’re so arrogant (full of yourself, know it all, egotistical)
• You’re such a control freak.
• Your problem is that you won’t tell me what you want.
• Your room is such a disgusting mess, I should just throw everything in the trash.