In Collaboration With
Centre for Compassionate Communication NZ
Transforming Our World
With Compassion & Empathy
One Heart At A Time ♥
From Bullying to Empathy Education Project (BEEP)
is here to help you connect with the Power of Empathy on the path to non-violence. Together we can work to build communities based on “Power With” Empathy and Compassion. The Tipping Point is here! Join us.
What the BEEP do we know about bullying resolutions in our homes and communities, schools and workplaces? All over the globe we are experiencing unprecedented problems with bullying and violence throughout our communities. Bullying is a global challenge. The Power of One person at a time for a tipping-point-change-of-paradigm has frequently been acknowledged.
We have the power to change our violent “bullying” culture to a culture of empathy and compassion, one heart at a time. To do this, we need tools that will help us learn how to be conversant with emotional literacy and intelligence. This will give voice to our feelings, clarity to our universal needs and values, and ultimately towards building our collective consciousness of empathy and compassion for ourselves and one another.
BULLYING is a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person’s or group’s power over another person or group. This “power over” or “imbalance of power‟ may be social power and/or physical power. It can occur in any context in which human beings interact with each other. This includes family, home, school, the workplace, church, sports, neighbourhood communities and organisations.
Bullying contributes to perceived or real imbalances of power in political, economic, religious and social systems of domination, and often cited as primary causes of conflict between people, governments or genocide and war between nations.
“EMPATHY is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing. Instead of offering empathy, we often have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. Empathy, however, calls upon us to empty our mind and listen to others with our whole being.” ~ Dr Marshall Rosenberg, founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) aka Compassionate Communication.
Empathy and Surfing
When asked to define empathy, Marshall Rosenberg compared it to surfing, as he relates in this audio clip: Empathy and Surf. When you ride the wave, the thrill is so exhilarating that you forget everything else. You live in the moment when nothing else matters, so intent on riding the wave perfectly that you and the wave become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, akin to flow. Similarly, when giving empathy, you want to strive for this kind of total presence for the person you are listening to.
Question: “What is the Definition for Empathy?”
Rosenberg: “Empathy, I would say is presence. Pure presence to what is alive in a person at this moment, bringing nothing in from the past. The more you know a person, the harder empathy is. The more you have studied psychology, the harder empathy really is. Because you can bring no thinking in from the past. If you surf, you’d be better at empathy because you will have built into your body what it is about. Being present and getting in with the energy that is coming through you in the present. It is not a mental understanding.”
Question: “Is it speaking from the heart?”
Rosenberg: “What? Empathy? In empathy, you don’t speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection with what’s alive in you.”