More Empathy Please

Many parents worry that giving their grumpy upset child lots of empathy may encourage them to become overly needy.  Sometimes it can seem like this is true because your empathy initially results in an increase in the intensity of your child’s expressions of anger, grief, disappointment or other frustrations.

Yet, this is generally indicative of the child now feeling safe enough to truly feel and show their true feelings.

In fact, so many studies have shown that when parents are empathically responsive to their children, those same children are more likely to develop greater empathy for others as well as generally having a higher emotional intelligence and resiliency.

When children don’t feel judged for being angry, they’re more likely to cry and seek out a comforting hug rather than hit the baby.  Children develop strong emotional resilience if they are consistently cared for when upset.
Yet empathy doesn’t come naturally to all parents.  Many of us didn’t receive much of it as children and really have a lot to learn about empathic communication.

When this is the case, a parent’s commitment to show their child more empathy can lead them to seeking more empathy for themselves and learning to be more empathetic towards themselves, as it’s difficult to give that which we’re not receiving.

by Genevieve Simperingham.

http://peacefulparent.com

Source: www.peacefulparent.com

When parents are empathically responsive to their children, those same children are more likely to develop greater empathy for others as well as generally having a higher emotional intelligence and resiliency.

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